Are you Contemplating Divorce?

Helping you make logical decisions based on facts rather than allowing your emotions to sabotage you.

Should I Stay in My Marriage or Get a Divorce?

EVALUATE YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE DECIDING TO DIVORCE

We are not pro marriage or pro divorce. We are here to help YOU experience a healthy understanding to make healthy decisions for you and what’s in the best interest of your children.

When you’re questioning the future of your marriage, if you’re seriously considering divorce or just feel emotionally disconnected, you need more than advice. You need clarity, unbiased support, and a process that helps you decide what’s truly right for you and your family.

That’s exactly what our Discernment Self-Assessment offers:
An objective, research-backed tool designed to help clarify your feelings, guiding you to make the best decision about your marriage with confidence, and answer the life-changing question:

“Should I stay or should I go?”

Get out of your head and think bigger. Before you do “anything” legal or financial, it is highly recommended that you focus on the “emotional” side of things. Our studies show that when a person can make decisions based on facts and logic, your emotions will not sabotage your efforts.

We’re getting you OUT of the stories and into a deeper dive of your overall relationship, what works and what needs help in a way you have likely never done,  objectively.

This assessment moves you out of the emotional swirl and into a clear, practical understanding of what’s working, what’s not, and what’s possible without blame or pressure.

Divorce Discernment Assessment

The Best Tool to Help You Decide Whether to Stay or Divorce

WHAT TO EXPECT

  • Be clear on what is “really” happening or keeping you stuck and looping around, with compassion. This is 15 not about blame, but to look at the facts and feeling understood.
  • This objective process allows you to fully explore the emotional and practical elements of your relationship, giving you the clarity to make an informed choice
  • Know the true story without fighting
  • Express yourself clearly and calmly to feel- heard and understood
  • Protect your legacy and secure your children’s wellbeing and future
  • Stop the boomerang- end the chaos
  • If you choose to stay together, the review the state of your marriage will open you up to new possibilities
  • If you choose to divorce, you are one step closer to saving grey hairs, save time (could be years of your life), reduce legal fees, and instead, aim towards peace of mind

What You'll Discover from the Assessment

WE TAKE A CLEAR, JUDGMENT-FREE LOOK AT YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Through the assessment, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of your strengths and areas for growth, providing actionable insights into your relationship dynamics.  What’s been missed and what could be rebuilt, you’ll walk away feeling empowered after discovering the following.

  • An overview of your style, strengths and weaknesses as a married couple and, see how different or noticeably similar you both are in various categories. Evaluate if it’s “fixable”.
  • How well you and your partner communicate, handle conflict, and work together based on where your relationship is right now.
  • How your past family experiences shape the way you see your relationship today.
  • How close and flexible you are as a couple.
  • Each partner’s stress levels and what’s causing the most pressure.
  • Your key personality similarities and differences, and how they affect your relationship.
  • Your similar or conflicting parenting styles.
  • How balanced you are with financial management.

Identifying these traits will greatly help in your decision-making and allow you to understand the deeper patterns of behavior that influence how you both interact.

Is the Divorce Discernment Assessment Right for You?

MOTHERS AND FATHERS WHO WANT TO CONTROL THEIR DECISIONS AND OUTCOMES

  • You’re working together to figure it out: You’re both not ready to make the decision to stay married or to get divorced and you want effective support to make a joint decision.
  • One of you is IN while the other one is OUT: One of you is requesting the divorce and the non-initiator is either blindsided, in shock, possibly frozen, and wants more clarity.
  • Willing to keep going: If you’d like to work on the marriage, give it one last try before giving it up and your spouse is willing to try something else besides marriage counseling

You’ll get clear, personalized feedback that fits your unique relationship, giving you advice that actually makes sense for you and your partner.

Our Assessment is ideal for couples who need clarity before making a life-changing decision, providing a neutral perspective on where the relationship stands.

Even if only one partner is leaning toward divorce, this tool can bring understanding to both parties, helping each partner navigate their emotions with insight.

Irooze Offers Flexible Divorce Solutions for Every Type of Marriage

DESIGNED TO FIT YOUR COMMUNICATION STYLE:

It is common in couples for each person to interpret a situation differently.  By adapting the assessment to your unique communication style, we ensure that both partners can engage with the results in a way that resonates personally, whether you prioritize emotions or logic.

This non-judgmental assessment allows you to view the results in a way that matches your style or vibe.

Some examples include:

  • If you’re a person that tends to express through feelings in difficult times, this assessment delivers the information with clarity while maintaining harmonious conversations and, honoring your emotions and inner wisdom.

  • If you value facts and logic, this assessment provides objective, data-driven results

  • If you’re prone to sounding things out, you will hear the truth of your relationship clearly since this assessment is objective and not based on hashing out the “stories”.

If you need to see the big picture, view your situation from a new lens with more clarity to help you understand patterns, alignments, and difference walk away equipped with a clear, actionable roadmap forward.

How the Divorce Discernment Assessment Process Works

THE STEP-BY-STEP PROCESS

The Irooze Method helps couples dive deeper to explore the root causes.
Our Divorce Specialist will then help you both explore next steps.
We are not pro marriage or pro divorce.
Our objective is to help both of you find clarity and peace of mind!

Step 1

Intake Call with a Divorce Specialist

Each of you will schedule a 45 minute intake call via Zoom.

Cost $197 USD per call,
provided by our Founder, Ravit Rose, THE Divorce Scientist!

Whether you each schedule a call individually or can get on one call together, Ravit will answer your questions and help you determine if this self assessment is the right fit for you.

Step 2

Make A Payment

If you both agree to take the self assessment, make your payment $799 USD. The Irooze team will set up your profiles and email the instructions to both of you.

Step 3

Complete Your Divorce Discernment
Self-Assessment

The assessment takes approximately 30-45 minutes to complete.

Step 4

Review Your Results, Together

Within 24-72 hours after you both completed the assessment, an Irooze Specialist will contact you to review both of your results (100% virtual). 

Parents will receive a summary of results by email, for current and future use/reference.

Step 5

1:1 Divorce Support for Your Next Steps

You will have a total of 3 hours allocated to discuss the results and based on the feedback of the assessment, both parents, along with the safety, guidance and support from an Irooze Specialist, will create a tailor-made action plan (jointly and/or individually).

Ongoing Support to Navigate Your Divorce Journey

If parent(s) want to continue with self improvement, Irooze will match you with the appropriate resources, options, or professionals to help you accomplish your goals and to develop any skills.

Regular Check-ins to Ensure Progress

We want to ensure you are on a good path. The Irooze Method fosters success and will track your progress and adjust your plan, if needed. 

Our ongoing support allows us to fine-tune your action plan, making adjustments as you and your partner continue your journey towards a healthier relationship or a peaceful separation.

FAQs

Your Most Important Questions with Honest Answers
A thought for the initiator, the one asking for the divorce
You may be ready for divorce, but if your spouse isn’t, the process can become emotionally challenging for all parties (which can otherwise be avoided). This exercise helps you both find common ground, making the transition smoother while protecting your peace, your future, and the legacy you want to leave for your children.
If divorce feels sudden or you’re unsure what went wrong or how you’re feeling about this, this process helps you explore the key issues and gain clarity. With the confidence of knowing why things have felt stuck or broken for your spouse, we will look at what can or can’t be fixed. You will walk away with concrete answers—whether you’re ready to accept them now or later.
Both parties must take this assessment. Since we require their honest responses, it is not advisable for you to answer the questions on their behalf. We cannot force anyone to participate. Our best suggestion is to invite them to read through this page and evaluate for themselves whether this assessment can solve problems or bring some clarity.
The Discernment assessment costs $799 USD per couple plus, $197 USD per 45 minute intake call. Such that, if you both participate in one joint meeting, it will be a one time cost of $197 USD for the two of you. If you prefer to have separate intake calls, each of you will pay a one time fee of $197 USD.